Idiot you are not a DOM!I
I Very rarely post any writings. Mainly due to the fact that sometimes the words from my brain to paper or type become scattered or jumbled. Yet, sometimes I feel the need to just say it or sometimes it just really needs to be said. This post might piss some people off and some might just agree with it! Either way they are my thoughts and not yours.
I see the words Dom, Master, Sir, Mistress and many others used on here way to much by people who have no clue what they truly mean and stand for. It pisses me off severely!! Let me say one thing first before I get 1,000 comments. If you have put in the YEARS and yes I said YEARS of time and effort to truly earn those titles I have the upmost respect for you!!! In my travels I have met many wonderful people who have earned them and they are amazing people. They are the first to guide, teach, help, and promote the lifestyle in a positive way.
Now to the rant lol! If this pisses you off then you are just the person I am talking about! Just because you went out and bought a flogger, a paddle, cane or any other toy of the lifestyle and you were lucky enough to find someone to use it on does not make you a Dom, Master, Mistress or any other thing of that nature. First off do you really have any clue of the damage it can cause to ones body, mind or soul? Did you find someone who could teach you the proper way to use it? Or were you one of the idiots who struck someone and proudly declared “I am a master of all things kink”? Do you understand the mental state or aspect of the person you are using it on, or did you only care about your own desire for gratification? Do you have any clue as to what to do if it went very badly and you actually caused injury to the person? Do you have the sense to understand the difference in actual pain and painful pleasure? I could go on and on here but, I think you get the meaning of my point!
If you want to EARN those titles then please do yourself and everyone a favor and take the time to learn the steps that it takes to truly call yourself one of those tittles! There are many wonderful people here and at local events and shows that will teach you and are eager to help you! Take the time to learn about your tools of the trade! MOST IMPORTANTLY, understand the mental aspects of what you are doing to not only yourself but to others. The mind can be the best tool you posses!